I’ve been dancing both roles for almost as long as I’ve been contra dancing. There were often more women than men, so if I wanted to dance, I would ask another woman to dance with me.  I loved getting to interact with everyone on the floor!  I believe that men are now discovering the joy of dancing with each other.  It makes sense to me that we all dance with whoever is available and willing.  Dancing itself is more important to me than dancing in a particular role. It’s great to see how much more comfortable folks are dancing with folks regardless of gender identification.