When I started dancing in college, posted Ball programs had one dance in each half lettered in red. Those red labels indicated ‘Ladies’ Choice.’ For all other dances, ‘ladies’ were expected to wait patiently for a ‘gentleman’ to ask them to dance. This official protocol left many of us feeling frustrated and uncomfortable—or shamed like naughty children if we broke the rules. After college, we began taking on leadership roles, and organized events where ‘People’s Choice’ was the norm. To encourage more open partnering, we suggested playful protocols, such as ‘For the next dance, find a partner who is at least 6″ shorter/taller than you.’ Most dancers responded positively to this community spirit, and the Ladies’ Choice convention vanished soon afterward. It was a great relief when everyone could participate equally in choosing their dance partners.