I was recently asked if my ECD community could perform some dances at an event. I’m really torn about asking the organizers if they want to do this. (I’m pretty sure they do.) I don’t want the world to see a dance where there are clearly gendered roles and a racial slur is used commonly as the name of a dance move. One person who I know will be at the event is a gay man. I imagine him watching the performance and deciding that there is no place for him and his partner in this community. I’m embarrassed to be associated, but I love the dance and many of the people.